Suicide - Why Do They Do it?

Chapter Extract

'I take it that no man is educated who has

never dallied with the thought of suicide.'

William James 1842 - 1910 (American Philosopher)

 

 

   "Scientists at the Life Extension Unit in Palm Springs, America, are experimenting with hormones to reverse the ageing process so that we can live for hundreds of years. And many international biologists claim to have identified the aging process and believe that in the future, moral and social consequences aside, we will be able to live on Earth forever. Good news? Well, not quite. According to the World Health Organisation (WHO), every year, worldwide, a million people commit suicide and 10 to 20 million attempt it because they see no point in living!

 

   When we consider that there is an excellent life after ‘death’ system, featuring astral and spiritual worlds that have functioned perfectly well for millions of years, we might well ask why scientists would consider condemning us to this strife-ridden planet forever? Or, conversely, what drives us to terminating our lives here and cutting short our stay?

   Over the years, I have come across numerous people who have reached the end of their tether and literally said to me, ‘What the hell is life all about – do you know?’ It’s easy to laugh off such remarks with light-hearted replies or try to change the subject if it threatens our comfort zones. But if we wish to become serious students of life and not remain in ignorance, then it’s advisable not to have comfort zones – Nature doesn’t!

   We should be prepared to comfort people who are stressed up to the eyeballs, depressed, see no meaning or purpose to their life and are feeling suicidal. And we will only be able to give them plausible answers if we have the knowledge and experience to do so. In that respect we can literally save a life! Let’s look at it this way – what gives us the right to demand answers to life’s puzzle if we are not prepared to give of our time and knowledge to help others who need reassuring words of comfort?

Four Attempts!

   In the summer of 1976 I was asked to have a chat with a frail 77-year-old lady who had attempted suicide four times! At each attempt the hospital had pumped her stomach, brought her back to consciousness and taken her home. She confessed to being in a loveless marriage with an 80-year-old husband who spent most of their income on his obsession with betting on the horses. Not only that, he continually told her how pathetic and useless she was. After the fourth failed attempt to end her life with an overdose, he argued that she was so incompetent she couldn’t even commit suicide properly, and offered to buy her a much stronger dose to guarantee success on her next attempt!

   Needless to say, she portrayed her husband as a very callous man. She was dreadfully unhappy in that sort of atmosphere, and explained that she couldn’t leave because she had no money and nowhere to go. This poor lady was suffering from mental abuse, depression, low self-esteem, loneliness, lack of security, feeling unloved, unwanted and a total failure. No wonder she saw life as meaningless and wanted to opt out!

   I explained to her in simple terms much of what I knew about life after death, cosmic law and the futility of suicide. She was very interested, but how much she really understood I never knew. Maybe a few seeds were sown that day. I gave her healing, made her smile, left my telephone number and offered to see her again in a couple of weeks. On the way out I had a few words with her husband, but they fell on ‘deaf’ ears. I would have had more response from a brick wall! We met twice more and I was pleased to see her looking better and feeling stronger within herself. To the best of my knowledge a fifth attempt was never made.

                 'Living never wore one out so much as the effort not to live.'

                                Anais Nin 1903 – 1977 (American writer)


Hereditary?

   I was introduced to a lady in her early 40s who was going through a rough patch. Her father had committed suicide when she was five-years-old and this had profoundly affected her ever since. She rang me whilst having a particularly bad day, and was sobbing and emotionally suicidal. She was convinced that because her father had taken his own life it was inherent in the genes and that it was to be her destiny also. I reassured her that there was no credible scientific evidence to support such thinking.

   We talked for ages, and eventually I asked her if she would want to inflict the same emotional scars on her children that her father had inflicted upon her. She was horrified at such a thought, and suddenly realised that suicide was a selfish act that would cause years of suffering to other members of her family. I put the phone down only after she ..........."